Lisa's post really got me thinking.
She said: I think I still haven't made peace with the fact that he has Down syndrome. I don't know if I ever will. There are other parents in the Ds community - lots of you who read this - who say they wouldn't change that about their child. And I have a hard time wrapping my head around that.
The first month or so that Kira was here, I said to my husband, "I wish someone would tell me when I'll quit thinking DownsyndromeDownsyndromeDownsyndrome every time I look at her." If another mom asked me that question today, I wouldn't have an answer for her. It's there every.single.time I look at my beautiful girl. I think it a million times a day.
I think, though, that I'm ok with that. Down syndrome is as much of who she is as are her gorgeous eyes, her strawberry blonde hair (so much like mine when I was her age), and her Daddy's cheekbones. Down syndrome is intrinsic to every cell in her body.
Do I wish she wouldn't have cognitive delays? Yes
Am I terrified for her future? Yes
Do I wish that she was knocking out milestones left and right, just like her brother did? Of course
Do I mourn what could have been? Absolutely and often when I least expect it. It hits me like a punch in the stomach.
Would I change the fact that she has Down syndrome? No
My girl is:
Empathetic beyond her years
Quick to forgive
Happy - and over-the-moon when someone else is happy
A daredevil - much to her mother's dismay
Who would she be without Down syndrome? I have no idea. But, I know that this kid, this one that I have right now, is perfect.
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